I had always thought a “happy Christian wife” was like a unicorn. Sure, it would be cool to see one. But…it’s not like they actually exist!

When I got married in 2012, all the wives I knew (Christian or not) were exhausted, resentful, and regularly complaining about their husbands’ apparent shortcomings.

I sure didn’t think so. I was desperate. I decided to throw out everything I thought I knew about being a godly wife (serve the family more, set appropriate boundaries, use “I feel…” statements, always pray together, resolve arguments before bedtime, focus on each other’s love language, have a weekly date night, see a couples counselor when needed, etc.). Such “conventional Christian” wisdom sounded good, but was not working for me. I had to start from scratch.

So, I scoured the internet and found a marriage mentor I admired, one who was actually happy and had the kind of connected, fun, shiny marriage I wanted. I forced myself to try her seemingly wacky ideas, and… things began to change.

Here I share my embarrassing/inspiring stories along the way. I uncover a few simple (and often unconventional) Biblical habits that actually worked to bring back the butterflies and love letters: rest, thankfulness, and carrying my own load. You can read in detail about these habits and Scriptures here: Three Strategies.

The more I practice these refreshing truths from God’s Word, the more unreasonably happy I’ve become.  It’s clear to me now that my husband is the strong, patient, steadfast Prince Charming he always was.